First Sunday in Lent (3)

 

Katrina’s newest addition, Miss Blakely Lois (sporting a St. Augustine’s Lenten Wristband)

There was a man named Nicodemus, a Jewish religious leader who was a Pharisee.  After dark one evening, he came to speak with Jesus.  “Rabbi,” he said, “we all know that God has sent you to teach us.  Your miraculous signs are evidence that God is with you.” Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.                                          John 3:1-3

“Hi.  I’m Katrina.  I’m nine.  How old are you?” asked the sweet little girl with big brown eyes and easy smile.  “Hi.  I’m Wendy.  I’m 23,” I replied.  She took my hand and led me from the doorway into the living room.   “Wow!  You are waaay younger than my Uncle Danny.  Wanna sit by me for the movie?”  Leave it to a child to speak the truth, without judgement, and then just carry on.  I had been dating my boyfriend (who was 15 years my senior) for about 3 months when he sprung on me that we had been invited to watch a movie with his brother’s family that evening.  This new relationship was starting to feel like it might be the real deal, so I felt some pressure to make a good first impression with his family.  Secretly, though, I worried about coming across as an immature kid with this more mature crowd.  But little Katrina had managed to put me at ease within two minutes of arriving.  She just spoke the truth as she saw it and immediately made me feel welcome and accepted.  She wasn’t worried about my and Danny’s age difference or society’s “norms.”  Kids really are the best, aren’t they?

Working with the kids of St. Augustine’s is one of my greatest joys.  They just have a way of getting right to the heart of the matter.  They are so vulnerable, yet they trust their needs will be met and delight in the simple things.  I admire how they don’t worry about appearances, live honestly and with their hearts on their sleeves:

  • Want to be with your dad?   Hang onto his leg with a death grip, wailing “don’t leave me” when he attempts to drop you off in the nursery during Sunday service.
  • Don’t like the raisins in your muffin?  Spit them dramatically onto your napkin and wipe any remnants off your tongue by repeatedly raking it with your fingers.
  • Miss seeing your best friend from Sunday school throughout the week?  Greet her every Sunday morning with a theatrical embrace and a declaration that your heart bursts with happiness at the mere sight of her!

The open heartedness and transparency of children come to mind as I read about the exchange between Jesus and Nicodemus.  Nicodemus is a prominent Jewish leader and comes to Jesus in the dark of night.  He doesn’t want it known that he is seeking counsel from this exceptional Jesus who Nicodemus now knows is the Messiah.  This Jesus who challenges the status quo and is more concerned with the spirit than appearances or societal norms.  Jesus explains that we must be reborn to experience the Kingdom of God.  We must experience a transformation so dramatic that it is as though we are once again babes starting fresh – a transformation of spirit.  I can’t help but think Jesus means we need to allow the Holy Spirit to transform our hearts into something that better resembles the trusting, welcoming heart of a child.  Lent is the perfect time to open our hearts to this, to strip our lives down – to delight in the simple things, to live vulnerably, honestly and in the knowledge that we are loved and our needs will be met. 

I went on to marry that “older” boyfriend and we just celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary.  I have had the honour of watching little Katrina grow up and become a kind woman of integrity and mom to three children of her own.   These days, what a blessing it is to pop by her house and have her little daughter greet me at the doorway and lead me to the living room for a visit – my heart bursts with happiness at the mere sight of her!

- Wendy Doherty